I Choose Love

Appreciate Yourself

In My Inspirational Thoughts on November 10, 2015 at 5:18 pm

TulipsWhen was the last time you acknowledged and appreciated yourself?

That’s right: YOU. Not your spouse, not your children, not your boss, co-workers or friends. Just YOU

Seriously, think about it!

And if it’s been too long since your last pat on the back, then I want you to take the time right now to acknowledge and appreciate yourself for everything you’ve accomplished today, throughout the year, and in life

Ask yourself: How many times have you succeeded in the past month? The past year? The past 10 years? Are you able to recall your successes as easily as your failures and missteps?

This is not a selfish or egotistical act in the least. By taking the time to stop and appreciate who you are and what you have achieved—and perhaps learned through a few mistakes, stumbles and losses—you actually can enhance everything about you!

Self-acknowledgment and appreciation are what give you the insights and awareness to move forward toward higher goals and accomplishments.

In working with top leaders and thought philosophers of our time, I will tell you that among their secrets of success is a regular practice of acknowledging and appreciating what they have.It can offer an oracle into the future because it not only tells you where you are but it also helps clarify where you want to go in life. Whatever that might be. The road then becomes easier to navigate—easier to see from the distance and walk confidently step by step.

Don’t forget to think about both big and little accomplishments. Many people under-appreciate the minor things they do successfully every day . And yet they can recall in detail all the times they have failed or made mistakes. That’s because the brain remembers events more easily when they are accompanied by strong emotions.

For example, you might vividly recall a graduation, losing 10 pounds, having a child, winning an award, or landing a highly sought after position.

But see if you can identify just as many minor, more subtle successes.

 

 

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Who You Are Makes a Difference

In My Inspirational Thoughts on September 30, 2012 at 10:37 pm

Each time you define yourself by the self-limiting ideas that dictate where you can or cannot go, whom you can or cannot participate with and what you are allowed to do and not do, you narrow your life choices.

Cultures that limit the full expression and creativity of their people based on traditional beliefs have narrow and inflexible attitudes, these cultures are maintained at the sacrifice of their members. Talents, gifts and ideas are sacrificed because of inflexibility and prejudice but you break through that each time you affirm your right to the life you say you want.

Knowing you have the right to joy, happiness, great health and creative existence is fundamental to life.

You need noone’s approval, nor do you need reasons to make the choices that promise you happiness, stability and joy!

Stepping away from the prescribed dictates of family, culture or religion may be painful at first, but eventually your life becomes defined by the way you live, love and communicate, and the choices you make for your life.

Know you are always part of a greater whole and that who you are makes a difference!

Take a deep breath as you affirm your Being:)

Alyonka

The Laws of Love and the Laws of Life

In My Inspirational Thoughts on November 17, 2011 at 11:39 pm

When we make deposits of Unconditional Love, when we live the primary laws of LOVE, we encourage others to live the primary laws of LIFE. In other words, when we truly love others without condition, without strings, WE HELP THEM feel secure and safe and validated and affirmed in their Essential Worth, Identity and Integrity. The natural growth process is encouraged. We make it easier for them to live the laws of life – cooperation, contribution, self-discipline, integrity – and to discover and live true to the highest and best WITHIN them. We give them freedom to act on their own inner imperatives rather than react to our conditions and limitations. This doesn’t mean we become permissive or soft.  We counsel, we set limits or consequences – but we love, regardless!

When we attach strings and conditions to that gift, we actually encourage others to VIOLATE the primary LAWS OF LIFE. We put them in a reactive, defensive position where they feel they have to prove “I matter as a person, independent of you.’

In reality they are NOT independent, they are co-dependent. They become reactive, almost enemy-centered, more concerned about defending their “rights” and producing evidence of their individuality instead of listening and honoring their own inner imperatives.

Rebellion is a knot of the heart, not of the mind.

Thus, prizing and loving and being prized or loved is experienced as very growth enhancing. A person who is loved appreciatively, NOT possessively, blooms and develops HIS OWN UNIQUE SELF. The person who loves nonposessively is himself enriched. I am, personally, not proud of what seems to be a fact – when I am not prized and appreciated, I not only feel very much diminished, but my behavior is very much affected by my feelings. When I am prized, I blossom and expand, I am an interesting individual. When I feel unconditional love, I know that nobody is trying to get me to “shape up”. Anyone who attempts to shape up the other person outweighs the value of that person as independent individual with their own inner uniqueness.

Alyonka