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People Are just as Wonderful as Sunsets

In My Inspirational Thoughts on November 4, 2011 at 9:25 pm

I feel enriched when I can truly prize or care for or love another person and when I can let that feeling flow out to that person. I used to fear being trapped by letting my feelings show, I used to think: “If I care for him, he can control me.” I think I have moved a long way toward being less fearful in this respect. Positive feelings are NOT dangerous either to give or receive.

Because of having less fear of giving and receiving positive feelings, I have become more able to appreciate people. I have come to believe that this ability is rather rare; so often we love people to control them rather than loving them because we appreciate them. One of the most satisfying feelings I know – and also one of the most growth promoting experiences for the other person – comes from my appreciating this individual in the same way that I appreciate a Sunset. People are just as wonderful as sunsets if I can let them be. In fact, the reason we can truly appreciate a sunset is that we cannot control it. When I look at a sunset as I did the other evening, I didn’t find myself saying, “Soften the orange a little on the right hand corner, and put a bit more purple along the base, and use a little more pink in the cloud color.” I don’t do that. I don’t try to control a sunset. I watch it with awe as it unfolds.

Prizing and loving and being prized and loved is experienced as very growth enhancing. A person who is loved appreciatively, not possessively, blooms and develops his own unique self. The person who loves non-possessively is himself enriched.