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The Changeless Core of You – Values vs. Principles

In My Inspirational Thoughts on November 1, 2011 at 8:06 am

In our personal lives, if we do not develop our self-awareness and become responsible for our creations, we empower other people and circumstances to shape much of our lives by default. We live through scripts handed to us by family, associates, other people agendas, the pressures of circumstance-scripts from our early years, our training, our conditioning.

These scripts come from people, not principles. And they rise out of our deep vulnerabilities, our deep dependency on others and our needs for acceptance and love, for belonging, for a sense of importance and worth, for a feeling that we matter.

Whether we are aware of it or not, whether we are in control of it or not, there is a first creation to every part of our lives. We are either the second creation of our own design, or we are the second creation of other people’s agendas, of circumstances, or of past habits.

In developing our own self-awareness many of us discover ineffective scripts, deeply embedded habits, that are totally unworthy of us, totally incongruent with the things we really value in life. We don’t have to live with those scripts. We can change that.

People can’t live with change if there is not a changeless core inside them. The key to the ability to change is a changeless sense of WHO YOU ARE, your principles, what you are about and what you value. We don’t need to figure out everything else in life, to stereotype and categorize everything and everybody in order to accommodate reality.

That changeless core of you, the what makes you – YOU, YOUR PRINCIPLES are self-evident, it’s almost as if these principles or natural laws are part of the human condition, part of human consciousness. They exist in all of us, regardless of our social conditioning and loyalty to them, even though they might be submerged by such conditions or disloyalty.


– Fairness out of which our concept of Equity and Justice is developed.

– Integrity and Honesty, they create the foundation of Trust, which is essential for long term personal and inter-personal growth.

– Human Dignity, the basic concept in the United States Declaration of Independence.

– Service, or the idea of making a contribution.

– Quality or Excellence.

– Potential, the idea that we are embryonic and can grow and develop and release more and more potential, develop more and more talents.

– Growth, the process of releasing potential and developing talents, with the accompanying need for principles such asPatience, Nurturance, and Encouragement.

Principles are not Practices. A Practice is a specific action. A Practice that works in one circumstances will not necessarily work in another. Principles are deep, fundamental Truths that have universal application. They apply to individuals, to relationships, marriages, families, private and public organizations of every kind. When these truths become habits, they empower people to create a wide variety of practices to deal with different situations.

Principles are not Values. A gang of thieves can share values. Principles are Territory, Values are Maps. When we value correct principles, we have Truth – a knowledge of things as they are.

Principles are Guidelines for Human Conduct that are proven to have enduring, permanent value.